Sex and Relationships
Proverbs 4:25 – Let thine eyes look right on, and let thine eyelids look straight before thee.
Take the example of the horse with its blinders. It is unable to see what is on its left or right – only what is straight ahead of it. The purpose for the blinders is to keep the horse from being distracted or spooked. Then, the horse is allowed to travel uninterrupted to its intended location based upon the descretion of the driver.
Many of us (on the other hand) like to look around. We gaze at whatever moves, talks, or remains still. In the midst of looking around, however, we see many things we wish we hadn’t. We see many distractions to our lives of faith and righteousness before God. Much of what we see or hear can lead us into all sorts of tempting thoughts and sin. And this occurs because we chose to look around.
Proverbs 5:3-20– For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil: But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell. Lest thou shouldest ponder the path of life, her ways are moveable, that thou canst not know them. Hear me now therefore, O ye children, and depart not from the words of my mouth. Remove thy way far from her, and come not nigh the door of her house: Lest thou give thine honour unto others, and thy years unto the cruel: Lest strangers be filled with thy wealth; and thy labours be in the house of a stranger; And thou mourn at the last, when thy flesh and thy body are consumed, And say, How have I hated instruction, and my heart despised reproof; And have not obeyed the voice of my teachers, nor inclined mine ear to them that instructed me! I was almost in all evil in the midst of the congregation and assembly. Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well. Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets. Let them be only thine own, and not strangers’ with thee. Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?
Solomon is giving a stern warning to his son about other women. A ‘strange’ woman is one that is a stranger, another, prostitute, harlot – SOMEONE THAT IS NOT YOUR WIFE! Solomon is warning his son to stay away from such women.
Though the lips of strange women seem like honeycomb (sweet) and has a mouth smoother than oil (soft, comforting words), her end is bitter, sharp as a two-edged sword and her path leads to death and hell. Some married men (even those that are not), look at the strange woman as something to be desired. They look better than your wife; always there to comfort you with soft words; and make you feel young and ‘fancy free.’ But as Solomon says, we do not know her ways as they are moveable and hidden…and unless we ponder the path of life (and our own), we would be subject to follow her down to death and hell.
In church leadership, pastors, ministers, musicians, and others that come before the church are often respected, appreciated, and supported. Their presence, anointing from God, and character/charisma can be an awe-inspiring representation of the things many hope to see in themselves and especially others (i.e. spouse). However, what begins as appreciation and thankfulness from afar can become much more within – and this is from the leader.
If the leader is not careful, they can misinterpret the person’s true intent and believe they have an ‘agenda’ to establish an intimate relationship. Some leaders would also use intimacy as a way of expressing their appreciation. They may assume there is an attraction and may even act on that assumption, not realizing that the person did not like them in that manner.
This is for both single and married leaders.
Many believers are living with sexual addictions, fetishes, etc. They may try or attempt to live for God during the day (or at least in public) and then in the darkness, at night, or when no one is looking, they satisfy their tempting desires. They’re struggling between who they were and who they should become in Christ.
So what should they do?
Proverbs 6:25-27– Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; neither let her take thee with her eyelids. For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adultress will hunt for the precious life. Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned?
There are beautiful people in the world and we see them everyday. For some of us, they live next door to us or share the same office space. However, a problem arises if we ever begin to lust after their beauty in our hearts. When we lust after their beauty, we become captivated by their looks, think about them way more than we should, and desire to spend more time with them than we normally would (if even for a moment).
So what’s the problem?!
Say no to sex before marriage and out of its bed Set boundaries on your life and tame the thoughts in your head Speaking lying ‘benefits’ that won’t get you far Save yourself for the wedding night and not the back of a car Don’t listen to the flesh with its desire for pleasure It’s a lie to destroy you and your sacred treasure Life’s too precious for two minutes of naughtiness Sin and disease spill over and makes your life a complete mess You think that’s pleasure? Think again and turn over the sin Lace up your shoes on your mark and run as fast as you can Take the road of escape that leads from temptation Heed the call of the preacher sharing this revelation Keeping sexual relations sacred in the eyes of the Father Conform your life to the NO NO from this point and farther
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1. Know yourself. You will be tested and/or tempted based on WHO you are and what Satan can find in you. You are in a war and the enemy will use your weaknesses to destroy you.
2. QUICKLY establish the relationship as being NOTHING more than professional.
Sexual immorality is destroying the church!
It manifests through pornography, adultery, homosexuality, bisexuality, bestiality, etc. Many of our fellow brothers and sisters are turning to the darkness of sin to commit their evil deeds rather than living in the light of the Lord:
John 3:19-21 – And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. For every one that doeth evil hateth the light, neither cometh to the light, lest his deeds should be reproved. But he that doeth truth cometh to the light, that his deeds may be made manifest, that they are wrought in God.
If you are struggling with sexual sin, get help NOW! Go to the Father, repent of your sins, and dedicate yourself to living above the muck and mire of your old sinful nature. Find strength in the Lord and your fellow brothers and sisters. You don’t have to give into temptation. You don’t have to sin.
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